Violence Prevention and Crisis Intervention

Partner Assault Response Program - Spousal, Partner, Victim Contact

Rexdale Women's Centre maintains regular contact with PAR clients' victims from when they receive the referral until they complete the PAR course. Staff members connect the victims with appropriate services based on their needs and interests.

Every situation is different for these complex family dynamics, but many victims have shared feedback that they noticed positive changes in their partner's behaviour after completing the PAR program.

Court and/or Probation Referrals Only

Partner Assault Response (PAR)
Program Groups

Ending violence against women involves working with and educating men about the different forms of abuse, the effects of violence on children, the pattern of violent behaviour and developing alternatives to physical, emotional and financial abuse. Rexdale Women's Centre offers groups for court-mandated offenders to better understand the consequences and impact of violence against women, work on accepting responsibility for their violent behaviour and to develop strategies to deal with anger.

Court and/or Probation Referrals Only

 

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Equality Wheel (Nonviolence)

Non-threatening Behaviour
Talking and action so that she feels safe and comfortable expressing herself and doing things.

Respect
Listening to her non-judgmentally, being emotionally affirming and understanding, valuing opinions

Trust and Support
Supporting her goals in life and respecting her right to her own feelings, friends, activities and opinions.

Honesty and Accountability
Accepting responsibility for self, acknowledging past use of violence, admitting being wrong, communicating openly and truthfully

Responsible Parenting
Sharing parental responsibilities, being a positive, non-violent role model for children

Shared Responsibility
Mutually agreeing on a fair distribution of work, making family decisions together

Economic Partnership
Making money decisions together, making sure both partners benefit from financial arrangements

Negotiation and Fairness
Seeking mutually satisfying resolutions to conflict, accepting change, being willing to compromise

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Power and Control Wheel (Violence)

Using Intimidation
Making her afraid by using looks, actions, gestures, smashing things, destroying her property, abusing pets, displaying weapons

Using Emotional Abuse
Putting her down, making her feel bad about herself, calling her names, making her think she’s crazy, playing mind games, humiliating her, making her feel guilty

Using Isolation
Controlling what she does, who she sees and talks to, what she reads, where she goes, limiting outside involvement, using jealousy to justify actions

Minimizing, Denying and Blaming
Making light of the abuse and not taking her concerns about it seriously, saying abuse didn’t happen, shifting responsibility of abusive behaviour, saying she caused it

Using Children
Making her feel guilty about the children, using the children to relay messages, using visitation to harass her, threatening to take the children away

Using Male Privilege
Treating her like a servant, making all the big decisions, acting like the “master of the castle,” being the one to define men’s and women’s roles

Using Economic Abuse
Preventing her from getting or keeping a job, making her ask for money, giving her an allowance, taking her money, not letting her know about or have access to family income

Using Coercion and Threats
Making and/or carrying out threats to do something to hurt her, threatening to leave her, to commit suicide, to report her to welfare, making her drop charges, making her do illegal things

 

— Partner Assault Response (PAR) Program Groups —

  • 925 Albion Road, Suite 309, 3rd Floor

    Etobicoke, Ontario

    M9V 1A6

  • PAR Group Lead Facilitator

    416-745-0062 Ext.304

— Partner Assault Response Program - Spousal, Partner, Victim Contact —

  • 925 Albion Road, Suite 309, 3rd Floor

    Etobicoke, Ontario

    M9V 1A6

  • PAR Group Lead Facilitator

    416-745-0062 Ext. 304